Has Menopause Changed You?

by Holly Osterman

Illustration by Sean McCabe

Menopause gets a lot of negative press. It’s not too often that you hear, “I’m so glad I’m in menopause. What a great experience this has been!” Usually, it’s the opposite. Between the hot flashes and mood swings, menopause can turn your world upside down.

But I recently ran across an article by Roseanne Barr. Yep, she’s in the news again and reflecting on her journey through menopause. I know what you’re thinking. People have very strong opinions about her, but this article was well written and had some great points. I could almost hear her voice while I was reading it.

Roseanne acknowledges that, while she was in menopause, it wasn’t very fun. Now that she’s on the other side, though, her life has changed for the better. She has more time for herself, is comfortable in her own skin, and knows what she wants out of life.

You know what? Good for her. Isn’t that what most of us are looking for?

So how do we find the silver lining in the dark clouds of menopause? We embrace the change. Because sometimes change is good. And as much as menopause affects us physically, it also makes a big impact mentally and emotionally.

Stop and take a look back at who you were five, ten, fifteen years ago. You probably see a very different person in the mirror. What’s changed? Your looks, your attitude and your perspective, your body? Or maybe you’re still in transition from the “old you” to the “new you.” Especially if hormones are currently wreaking havoc on your life.

Menopause is the body’s way of cleaning out the closet. We spend years cramming stuff in and hanging on to more than we should. Things get buried—feelings, baggage, useless crap. We convince ourselves that we’ll need all this stuff one day. We won’t. But it sits there until there’s no room left and we realize that things need to be different now. It can be scary. After all, who remembers what’s sitting at the bottom of your closet?

Keep the faith. There is often light at the end of a tunnel. And as Roseanne so eloquently put it, “Menopause is the victory lap over the curse of being born female!”

Has menopause changed your perspective on life? Join us in the menopause forum and tell us how.

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Menopausalmother January 10, 2012 at 9:29 pm

I love this blog post!! So true! I just wish I was already on the other side of it. The hot flashes and rapid weight gain is the worst for me! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!


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